stop using mental health terms as ‘banter’

I felt inspired to write about this topic after watching Meghan Rienks talk about it on her social media platforms over the past week. She was talking about how using terms such as ‘triggered’/’trigger warning’ grinds her gears because she personally suffers from mental health disorders that can be legitimately triggered. It got me thinking about how I feel about people using mental health terms that I relate to in situations where its usage does not apply or feels inappropriate.

I have lost count of the amount of times people who know my history of depression talk about being ‘so depressed’ to describe a time when they were bored in a lecture or went to a club that was a little bit empty. THIS IS NOT DEPRESSION.  I have also had people say to me ‘omg my anxiety is through the roof’ when discussing feeling nervous for a date. THIS IS NOT ANXIETY. Both of these mental health issues come in many different forms & I don’t want to seem like I am saying that because someone’s experience of depression or anxiety is different to mine that it is not legitimate. What I am saying is that when these things have been said to me they are being said by people very flippantly, disregarding the seriousness of the illnesses for people who have them. That being said, for the most part I tend to ignore it because I am the kind of person that avoids confrontation at all costs and I don’t want to start a debate about something. However, I can now see that by doing this I am part of the problem.

I believe that it is time to educate people in the proper usage of mental health phrases because I am tired of people using terms like OCD to describe being tidy or saying that they are ‘triggered’ by a new make up palette. For people who suffer with mental health problems, we already have to face a huge societal stigma about what we have. We have been made to feel like we are attention-seeking and being over dramatic, we are put on waiting lists for counselors that are months and months long because the sector is underfunded, as well as having to cope with what can be a debilitating illness. It is time to start explaining to our peers how using these phrases for ‘banter’ hurts us and fuels the stigma that we already face. It is time for us to educate ourselves on mental health terms and learn to use them properly.With all that is going on in the world right now I don’t think we need to be adding to anyone’s problems.

So please, think before using one of these terms the next time you are on twitter or you are out with your friends. You don’t know who could be suffering in silence.

 

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thoughts on: la la land

My housemate & I have started a ritual of hanging out on Wednesday nights & watching a film. This week we decided it was time to go and see La La Land as we had heard so much about it & it seemed right up our street.

We were not disappointed.

I feel like I need to see it a couple more times to be able to write something really in depth about it so for now please acknowledge that these are my first impressions. I am going to be as non-spoilery as a can but in order for this to really make sense I would recommend seeing the film first.

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The costumes

After the first number I lent over to my housemate & said ‘let’s never wear anything but primary coloured tea dresses’.

Every single one of Emma Stone’s costumes were amazing but THAT.YELLOW.DRESS. As a blonde hair paled skin lady I would never have considered wearing yellow but now I am on the look out for that dress. Anyone know a good place to find one similar?

I loved the colour scheme and hint of nostalgia in the clothes, especially the fact that Ryan Gosling was in a suit / smart shirt & skinny tie 99% of the time.

It was one of those films I came out of desperate to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe.

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The soundtrack

Has been on repeat ever since I saw it. I personally love Jazz, having studied it at school and having a father who plays Dave Brubeck religiously, so I loved the incorporation of it in the film.

Mia and Seb’s motif was so beautiful – it made my housemate cry every time it played.

The opening song has gained a lot of criticism but personally I thought it was great using voices that were not completely polished and broadway-styled.

City of Stars is on loop, constantly running through my mind.

Overall, top notch music.

 

The story line

I will put my hands up –  I am really not a fan of romantic films. They also seem so corny & they grate on me more than most.

That being said, I loved the way they portrayed Mia & Seb’s relationship. They focused on the little things that make up a love story – the planetarium scene is the perfect metaphor for how it feels to fall in love.

The little winks and nods at the classic old Hollywood films were brilliant and have inspired me to have a little movie marathon of them soon.

It is rare that I come out of a film with little criticism of a film but I really am yet to find a fault with this one.

Leave your comments down below – I would love to know what you think!

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Remedy in a bottle?!

Don’t worry, I’m not talking about a wine bottle! I am referring to the Neal’s Yard range called Remedies to Roll – which I now have a full collection of (thanks for the fab Christmas present brother & sister in law).

If you’re not into all this ‘hippy dippy stuff’ I encourage you to read on. Most of my friends were pretty reluctant to try aromatherapy but I have only had positive feedback with a hint of surprise that it actually worked. I don’t claim to be an expert on aromatherapy and if you are interested in learning more I would definitely advise having a google session!

What are Remedies to Roll?

There are lots of aromatherapy products out there but I am writing about Neal’s Yard because not only are they one of my favourite companies, these little bottles are perfect for carrying around with you. There are five different ‘scents’ that each encourage a different action: Energy, Study, Travel, Relaxation, Night Time. 


How do you use them?

I like to keep the Energy and Study ones in my uni bag and usually whip those out during a study session in the library. I definitely feel like I focus more once I have put a little on my pulse points although this could also be the placebo effect! Either way it makes me feel a little more productive.

I use the Relaxation roll on when I practice yoga or when I am trying to switch off in the evenings and I use Night Time  just before I put my eye mask on and head off to the land of nod.

I am yet to use the Travel one as I have yet to jet set anywhere but if it is anything like the others I’m sure I will love it.


What do they smell like?

Energy: rosemary, lavender, geranium and grapefruit

Relaxation: lavender, bergamot and frankincense

Study: clove, orange and rosemary

Travel: bergamot, neroli, rosemary and clary sage

Night Time: neroli, rose and romas chamomile

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What are my resolutions for 2017? 

Following on from last week’s post, here is my list of resolutions for 2017:

Say thank you / give a compliment to one person every day – not just for the big things but the small ones too & not just as a throwaway but saying it with meaning. I am polite but I feel like I don’t thank my friends and family enough for the little things sometimes and I definitely don’t compliment people enough. Not because I don’t think nice things, usually I’m just too shy to say if I like someone’s shirt or think someone made a good point in a seminar.

Carry a book everywhere – I always say I don’t have enough time to read & I proved myself wrong by reading almost 30 books this year. Now I want to improve that even more by bringing one with me, Rory Gilmore style. (Have I mentioned Gilmore Girls enough on this blog yet?)

Practice yoga more – I have this little fantasy of one day becoming a yoga teacher (like when I retire or have kids) so I feel like I need to incorporate it more into my daily routine. I have signed up for Yoga With Adriene’s ‘Yoga Revolution’ and would totally recommend her YouTube channel to anyone who wants to start getting into yoga.

just a short one for today folks, enjoy your week!

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Did I stick to my resolutions this year?

If you have been hanging out on this blog for a while you might recall that last January I did a post about my resolutions (not the most original post but there you go). I thought it might be fun to look back on those promises I made to myself and see if I actually kept any of them.

1. Mindfulness

At the beginning of the year I said that I wanted to incorporate mindfulness into my daily life as I had heard about the benefits it has for mental health. I won’t lie – I did an awful job at sticking to meditating everyday and I haven’t touched my mindfulness journal in quite a while. That being said, I have found myself gravitating more towards meditation when I feel overwhelmed, rather than losing control and letting it consume me which usually leads to a panic attack. So I have been successful to some extent but I could definitely work on this a lot more.

2. Cooking

November marked a year of vegetarianism and I have never looked back. I feel healthier, I make healthier choices and slowly but surely those around me are starting to make a conscious effort to eat less meat too. I vowed that I would learn how to cook proper veggie meals and I have stuck to it. My favourite thing to make is probably the black bean shepherd’s pie featured in Ready Steady Glow by Madeline Shaw and my house mate and I also made the most amazing veggie lasagne which I still dream about often. Overall, this one was a success.

3. Saving Money

I wanted to start a spending diary to keep track of where I waste my money on unnecessary things and I have stuck to this one too! It has been so helpful seeing where I need to cut down on spending (my caffeine habit plays a large part in this one) and generally makes me more conscious of my spending.

 

I have to say even I am quite surprised at myself for sticking to these resolutions for a whole year. My next post will be all about my resolutions for 2017 so stay tuned!

happy new year everyone

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