so you’re a vegan now?

Yeah this question has been asked and answered many times over the past few weeks. Just a quick disclaimer, I’m not trying to preach – it is your body and you can put it in what you like. This is just a little blog chat about my experience with moving into veganism.

I had been considering veganism for a while and whilst laying in bed feeling super ill and sluggish I just made the decision to try it out for a week and see how it went. Sadly, my biggest concern with veganism was the BS that I would get for it from my peers. I learned pretty quickly to just say “it’s my body and my decision isn’t affecting your life” and ignore the “I’m going to eat loads of cheese in front of you” jibes. Apart from that, my transition has been overwhelming positive. I tweeted out asking if anyone had any advice for a baby vegan like me and I had so many lovely DMs filled with advice.

Here are a few of the people who were lovely enough to help me out

Cattitude&Co: twitter // blog 

Hannah Sierp: twitter // blog

E Craves: twitter // blog 

My shops have been cheaper

*KLAXON SOUND* Yep, that’s right my shops are CHEAPER without dairy or meat products in my basket.

I have cooked the BEST meals

Honestly, turning vegan hasn’t stopped me eating my favourite meals. The other day I had popcorn chicken and garlic bread but it was all vegan and affordable (shout out to ASDA). Being vegan doesn’t mean eating a bowl of chickpeas and some avocado (although both are really nice but that is not the point I am making here). Supermarkets have so many affordable free from options – the other day I had vegan rocky road!! I have also experimented way more with cooking which has been really fun for me and a great distraction from revision.

I have discovered some amazing places

Who knew there were so many vegan places around where I live. Finding vegan food isn’t as hard as you may think, thanks to the internet. Trust me, you won’t miss out at restaurants either as people are actually getting with the times and offering amazing vegan options *insert confetti emoji*

I have energy, I have clearer skin and I just feel better

Cutting out dairy has made me realise how sluggish and ill it made me feel. The other day I ate a whole vegan pizza and whilst everyone else was clutching their stomachs complaining about being too full, I felt perfectly satisfied. In fact, I was really smug about not being in pain after eating because guys, guess what, THAT IS NOT NORMAL. Also my skin is GLOWING. Yes I still get spots, ya girl still got hormones but generally my skin is so much better!

 

As I said at the beginning of this post, I am not about to preach to you about animal cruelty, the destruction of the environment and so on because whilst these are all valid points people tend to get freaked out when faced with the ugly truth. And like I said earlier, it is your body and you are in control but if you are considering veganism or even just going vegan once a week, I completely recommend it. 

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toxic friendships

*please note that the people in the featured image are NOT toxic friends. I just thought it was a good image. if you are featured in this image don’t worry I love you* 

The whole concept of toxic friendships has been playing on my mind recently and I realised that a blog post about them would have been so helpful when I was in the midst of my toxic friendships. So this is a guide for all you who are like a sponge and take on the energy of others  and emotionally invest in people so much that you end up draining yourself.

There is a difference between putting yourself first and being selfish

I wish someone had told me this when I was younger. No matter what I was going through, if a friend rang me I would push aside all of my stuff and listen to their problems and help them. Of course, being there for your friends is important, especially if they’re going through stuff BUT you also have to be there for yourself. If you are having an awful day and you know that you don’t have the capacity to help someone else at that moment…be honest. Check that the problem isn’t life-threatening and ask if you can call them back tomorrow / when you’re feeling a little better.  SET BOUNDARIES. If the person is really your friend, they will understand. There were so many times as a kid when my mum had just died when I was in pieces but would sit and listen to everyone else’s problems that seemed so tiny in comparison and it used to upset me so much that no one stopped to consider me. It upsets me even more that I never stopped to consider me!

Surround yourself with positive people

I am an extremely empathetic person and I am highly susceptible to other people’s energy. If someone I am close to is stressed, I take on that stress. If they are sad, I am sad too. It has taken me a long time to realise this and learn that if you surround yourself with people who are always miserable, negative and angry it can be so damaging to your own mind. Obviously people cannot be positive all the time, it just isn’t possible but it is possible to not be negative ALL of the time. Question how you feel whenever you have hung out with them. Do you feel exhausted, drained or sad?

Assess your give and take ratio

Do you devote yourself fully to a friendship whilst the other person only really bothers when no one else is around to entertain them? Are you there for them but they don’t really reciprocate, even when you ask for help? My counsellor highlighted to me that most of the friendships I discussed with her had something in common – I put in all the leg work and didn’t really get any of the reward. This kind of ties in with the other points I’ve made but I thought it was important to say it in very black and white terms. Reevaluate friendships that you put a lot into and don’t get a lot out. It really shocked me how often I have done this with previous friendships that have ended and even a couple that I still have. You can’t expect someone to be there for you all of the time (see point 1) but you can expect them to be there for you as much as you are for them.

I hope this has helped you if you’ve needed it today

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(updated) favourite podcasts

Just over a year ago I wrote about the podcasts I was enjoying and looking back on that post I realised it definitely needed updating. Podcasts are still a very large part of my evening routine as well as the soundtrack to long drives home. Whilst the podcasts I mentioned last time are still high on my list, there are definitely a few new ones too.

You can listen to podcasts on the podcast app which is free on iTunes. If you don’t have an iPhone, Podbean is another great app for listening or SoundCloud.

Carl Donnelly & Chris Martin Comedy Podcast

Just two best friends having a chat with their comedian friends. I love this podcast because they always go off on random tangents & they have anecdotes for every topic. If you’re not British there may be sections of this podcast you just don’t understand because there is a fair bit of British banter but that’s one of the reasons why I enjoy it so much. They also have a new podcast called Babysitting Trevor where they try to help a fellow comedian be a little more cultured and less reliant on his wife. It is VERY funny.

their twitters: @chrisMcomedy // @CarlDonnelly

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News Roast

This podcast just finished its first season and I cannot recommend it enough. It is a metaphorical meal with three courses and they invite a public figure to bring these three courses to the table to discuss. It is a great current affairs podcast with some really interesting guests and the hosts are also the masterminds behind The Revolution Will Be Televised. I’ve been listening to this whilst I’m on walks and I have found myself discussing the topics with friends which makes me sound way more knowledgeable than I actually am!

their twitters: @JolyonRubs // @HeydonProwse

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The Political Party

If you live in the UK you will be well aware of the upcoming general election. I saw a statistic the other day that said over 1 million young people who are of voting age have not registered to vote. I know that voting can seem overwhelming so I really recommend this podcast for getting to grips with UK politics. It also presents the facts without being biased to one particular party.

matt’s twitter: @mattforde

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april favourites

Aaah, it feels good to be back in the swing of blogging & doing a good ol’ monthly favourites

read

The Broken Trilogy: I started this series last year & then forgot about it whilst I was waiting for the other two books to be released. About a month ago I suddenly got back into the swing of reading for pleasure rather than just for uni & rediscovered this series. It’s a dystopian story that follows a society that becomes jeopardized by an evil ruler obsessed with astrology & how this affects the ‘harmony’ of the country.

listen

i have made a playlist of all the tunes i have been loving this month here

jacob banks: my brother introduced me to him just in time for his new EP to be released ‘the boy who cried freedom’ although i also recommend listening to his album ‘the paradox’ as well. The man has such a smooth voice and his songs are full of soul.

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will joseph cook: his debut album ‘sweet dreamer’ is the ultimate summer soundtrack

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john mayer: john will always remind me of days when me & my friends used to listen to his songs on repeat when we were feeling lovesick. His new album ‘the search for everything’ is full of great songs, particularly ‘love on the weekend’ which is the ultimate description of the honeymoon period of a relationship.

classic fm: this may be a bit of a grandma thing to enjoy but since inheriting an old radio my dad didn’t want i have had this on in the background whilst revising and it is just brilliant. I even got a shoutout for requesting a song the other day (claim to fame)

watch

two youtubers for you this month: cartia mallan & leena norms

cartia just seems like one of those souls you just want to talk to for hours about life and i like that.

i have incl insta handles in case you want to follow them

leena just did 40 days of videos for lent and they are all about finding yourself, creativity & growing up. I recommend binge watching them.


line of duty: get on bbc iplayer right now (if you live in the UK or go on netflix and watch the earlier series) and watch this. It is a drama all about corrupt policemen and it has so many twists and turns that I never manage to figure out ‘who done it’ until the final moments of the finale.

miscellaneous

journal writing: a stream of sub-conscious filling pages of pretty notebooks. I use journal prompts from themessyheads or just write my thoughts down.

comment pods: I recently joined an instagram comment pod & love it! Women supporting and building up other women. What’s not to like?

i took this & will joseph cook liked it hehe

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