so you’re a vegan now?

Yeah this question has been asked and answered many times over the past few weeks. Just a quick disclaimer, I’m not trying to preach – it is your body and you can put it in what you like. This is just a little blog chat about my experience with moving into veganism.

I had been considering veganism for a while and whilst laying in bed feeling super ill and sluggish I just made the decision to try it out for a week and see how it went. Sadly, my biggest concern with veganism was the BS that I would get for it from my peers. I learned pretty quickly to just say “it’s my body and my decision isn’t affecting your life” and ignore the “I’m going to eat loads of cheese in front of you” jibes. Apart from that, my transition has been overwhelming positive. I tweeted out asking if anyone had any advice for a baby vegan like me and I had so many lovely DMs filled with advice.

Here are a few of the people who were lovely enough to help me out

Cattitude&Co: twitter // blog 

Hannah Sierp: twitter // blog

E Craves: twitter // blog 

My shops have been cheaper

*KLAXON SOUND* Yep, that’s right my shops are CHEAPER without dairy or meat products in my basket.

I have cooked the BEST meals

Honestly, turning vegan hasn’t stopped me eating my favourite meals. The other day I had popcorn chicken and garlic bread but it was all vegan and affordable (shout out to ASDA). Being vegan doesn’t mean eating a bowl of chickpeas and some avocado (although both are really nice but that is not the point I am making here). Supermarkets have so many affordable free from options – the other day I had vegan rocky road!! I have also experimented way more with cooking which has been really fun for me and a great distraction from revision.

I have discovered some amazing places

Who knew there were so many vegan places around where I live. Finding vegan food isn’t as hard as you may think, thanks to the internet. Trust me, you won’t miss out at restaurants either as people are actually getting with the times and offering amazing vegan options *insert confetti emoji*

I have energy, I have clearer skin and I just feel better

Cutting out dairy has made me realise how sluggish and ill it made me feel. The other day I ate a whole vegan pizza and whilst everyone else was clutching their stomachs complaining about being too full, I felt perfectly satisfied. In fact, I was really smug about not being in pain after eating because guys, guess what, THAT IS NOT NORMAL. Also my skin is GLOWING. Yes I still get spots, ya girl still got hormones but generally my skin is so much better!

 

As I said at the beginning of this post, I am not about to preach to you about animal cruelty, the destruction of the environment and so on because whilst these are all valid points people tend to get freaked out when faced with the ugly truth. And like I said earlier, it is your body and you are in control but if you are considering veganism or even just going vegan once a week, I completely recommend it. 

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toxic friendships

*please note that the people in the featured image are NOT toxic friends. I just thought it was a good image. if you are featured in this image don’t worry I love you* 

The whole concept of toxic friendships has been playing on my mind recently and I realised that a blog post about them would have been so helpful when I was in the midst of my toxic friendships. So this is a guide for all you who are like a sponge and take on the energy of others  and emotionally invest in people so much that you end up draining yourself.

There is a difference between putting yourself first and being selfish

I wish someone had told me this when I was younger. No matter what I was going through, if a friend rang me I would push aside all of my stuff and listen to their problems and help them. Of course, being there for your friends is important, especially if they’re going through stuff BUT you also have to be there for yourself. If you are having an awful day and you know that you don’t have the capacity to help someone else at that moment…be honest. Check that the problem isn’t life-threatening and ask if you can call them back tomorrow / when you’re feeling a little better.  SET BOUNDARIES. If the person is really your friend, they will understand. There were so many times as a kid when my mum had just died when I was in pieces but would sit and listen to everyone else’s problems that seemed so tiny in comparison and it used to upset me so much that no one stopped to consider me. It upsets me even more that I never stopped to consider me!

Surround yourself with positive people

I am an extremely empathetic person and I am highly susceptible to other people’s energy. If someone I am close to is stressed, I take on that stress. If they are sad, I am sad too. It has taken me a long time to realise this and learn that if you surround yourself with people who are always miserable, negative and angry it can be so damaging to your own mind. Obviously people cannot be positive all the time, it just isn’t possible but it is possible to not be negative ALL of the time. Question how you feel whenever you have hung out with them. Do you feel exhausted, drained or sad?

Assess your give and take ratio

Do you devote yourself fully to a friendship whilst the other person only really bothers when no one else is around to entertain them? Are you there for them but they don’t really reciprocate, even when you ask for help? My counsellor highlighted to me that most of the friendships I discussed with her had something in common – I put in all the leg work and didn’t really get any of the reward. This kind of ties in with the other points I’ve made but I thought it was important to say it in very black and white terms. Reevaluate friendships that you put a lot into and don’t get a lot out. It really shocked me how often I have done this with previous friendships that have ended and even a couple that I still have. You can’t expect someone to be there for you all of the time (see point 1) but you can expect them to be there for you as much as you are for them.

I hope this has helped you if you’ve needed it today

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(updated) favourite podcasts

Just over a year ago I wrote about the podcasts I was enjoying and looking back on that post I realised it definitely needed updating. Podcasts are still a very large part of my evening routine as well as the soundtrack to long drives home. Whilst the podcasts I mentioned last time are still high on my list, there are definitely a few new ones too.

You can listen to podcasts on the podcast app which is free on iTunes. If you don’t have an iPhone, Podbean is another great app for listening or SoundCloud.

Carl Donnelly & Chris Martin Comedy Podcast

Just two best friends having a chat with their comedian friends. I love this podcast because they always go off on random tangents & they have anecdotes for every topic. If you’re not British there may be sections of this podcast you just don’t understand because there is a fair bit of British banter but that’s one of the reasons why I enjoy it so much. They also have a new podcast called Babysitting Trevor where they try to help a fellow comedian be a little more cultured and less reliant on his wife. It is VERY funny.

their twitters: @chrisMcomedy // @CarlDonnelly

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News Roast

This podcast just finished its first season and I cannot recommend it enough. It is a metaphorical meal with three courses and they invite a public figure to bring these three courses to the table to discuss. It is a great current affairs podcast with some really interesting guests and the hosts are also the masterminds behind The Revolution Will Be Televised. I’ve been listening to this whilst I’m on walks and I have found myself discussing the topics with friends which makes me sound way more knowledgeable than I actually am!

their twitters: @JolyonRubs // @HeydonProwse

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The Political Party

If you live in the UK you will be well aware of the upcoming general election. I saw a statistic the other day that said over 1 million young people who are of voting age have not registered to vote. I know that voting can seem overwhelming so I really recommend this podcast for getting to grips with UK politics. It also presents the facts without being biased to one particular party.

matt’s twitter: @mattforde

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april favourites

Aaah, it feels good to be back in the swing of blogging & doing a good ol’ monthly favourites

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The Broken Trilogy: I started this series last year & then forgot about it whilst I was waiting for the other two books to be released. About a month ago I suddenly got back into the swing of reading for pleasure rather than just for uni & rediscovered this series. It’s a dystopian story that follows a society that becomes jeopardized by an evil ruler obsessed with astrology & how this affects the ‘harmony’ of the country.

listen

i have made a playlist of all the tunes i have been loving this month here

jacob banks: my brother introduced me to him just in time for his new EP to be released ‘the boy who cried freedom’ although i also recommend listening to his album ‘the paradox’ as well. The man has such a smooth voice and his songs are full of soul.

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will joseph cook: his debut album ‘sweet dreamer’ is the ultimate summer soundtrack

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john mayer: john will always remind me of days when me & my friends used to listen to his songs on repeat when we were feeling lovesick. His new album ‘the search for everything’ is full of great songs, particularly ‘love on the weekend’ which is the ultimate description of the honeymoon period of a relationship.

classic fm: this may be a bit of a grandma thing to enjoy but since inheriting an old radio my dad didn’t want i have had this on in the background whilst revising and it is just brilliant. I even got a shoutout for requesting a song the other day (claim to fame)

watch

two youtubers for you this month: cartia mallan & leena norms

cartia just seems like one of those souls you just want to talk to for hours about life and i like that.

i have incl insta handles in case you want to follow them

leena just did 40 days of videos for lent and they are all about finding yourself, creativity & growing up. I recommend binge watching them.


line of duty: get on bbc iplayer right now (if you live in the UK or go on netflix and watch the earlier series) and watch this. It is a drama all about corrupt policemen and it has so many twists and turns that I never manage to figure out ‘who done it’ until the final moments of the finale.

miscellaneous

journal writing: a stream of sub-conscious filling pages of pretty notebooks. I use journal prompts from themessyheads or just write my thoughts down.

comment pods: I recently joined an instagram comment pod & love it! Women supporting and building up other women. What’s not to like?

i took this & will joseph cook liked it hehe

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tips for productive revision

It’s that time of year again ~ exam time! Whether you are studying for your GCSEs, A Levels or like me have the final exams of your university career looming, here are some hopefully helpful tips to get you through long study sessions.

  1. The Pomodoro Technique

This technique consists of working for 25 minutes and then taking a 10 minute break. It has been shown that your brain can only concentrate properly for 25 minutes before it stops taking information in effectively. I love this technique and it has massively improved my productivity

2. Do not disturb

Use that feature on your phone, you know the one with the moon sign. It stops all social media, texts and calls from lighting up your screen unless they are in your favourites list. It’s one of the best features for boosting your productivity, use it!

3. Create a calming work environment

My university library is very detrimental to my revision mainly because they do not let you consume any food or drink (except water) and it is either arctic or sahara desert with no in between. Instead of subjecting myself to this uncomfortable form of studying I have turned my room into a little sanctuary. Candles, a little succulent plant, a comfortable blanket and some cosy slippers and I am all set for a few hours studying. I am lucky to live in a quiet neighborhood but if you don’t have this luxury you can definitely create a little sanctuary in the library too. For example, my friend brings a little cactus with her to keep her company during a hardcore essay writing session.

4. Take a walk

I’m not talking 10k here, I’m talking 15 minutes tops just getting some fresh air into your lungs. It allows your brain a little quiet time and being in nature is one of the best things you can do when you are stressed.

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my little beam of light

I wrote this post a few weeks ago but only just felt strong enough to post it.

I feel like my life has centred around loss recently. It seems that every other weekend I have been going back to my hometown for a funeral or because of a family situation and so I’ve not only lost people from my life but also lost the normality of life.

 

As I write this I am back on the sofa at home, trying to ignore the clock because time is ticking on and it is getting ever closer to 4.30. The vet appointment. The time that I say goodbye to the one friend that has been there in my darkest hours & shared my happiest times.

 

To some a dog is just a pet but Maisy has always been so much more than that to me. My parents bought her for me when my mum was just recovering from her first battle with cancer. She was this little bundle of energy and happiness that I could focus on training and looking after rather than worrying about my mum, which at 11 years old you shouldn’t have to do. I remember when she was really little she ripped a hole in my favourite shirt and I was mad for about 30 seconds but after that just said I hadn’t liked the shirt anyway because I just couldn’t be angry at this little fluff ball.

 

When my mum died I felt so isolated. People at school didn’t get it and my family was also trying to cope with the loss so Maisy was really the only comfort that I had. Taking her for long walks and cuddling on my bed with her was all I really lived for when my mental health problems reared their ugly head last year and I couldn’t have asked for a better best friend. People who know me well have all fallen in love with her too and everyone knows how much I adore her and how special she is to me. Not a day has gone by since the moment she came into my life that I haven’t thought about her and how much I love her.

 

So when people say she’s just a dog I will point them to this post because she really wasn’t JUST a dog. She’s been a support system, a best friend and truly the greatest dog I have ever had.

I’m not sure whether there will be a time in the future when I don’t feel like my life is centred around loss. I hope there is. But for now all I can do is keep my chin up.

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holy moly!

You guessed it, a month to the day & I am back in this tiny little corner of the internet ready to ramble like never before. 

I am actually typing up a recording of myself rambling whilst out on a walk on Easter Sunday, in an attempt to get some fresh air & give myself a chance to listen to John Mayer’s new album.

I think this break has done me the world of good as I’m feeling a lot more authentic and more focused on what I want to write & how to make my blog the safe space I want it to be rather than having a one track mind that only cared about numbers.

The past couple of weeks have been interesting, a lot has gone on, some of which I alluded to in my post a month ago and some of which has happened since. Most heartbreakingly, my little labrador Maisy was unfortunately found to have two huge un-treatable tumors which meant having to say an extremely hard goodbye. There will be a post up soon in tribute to her & explaining just how much that dog did for me & mental health.

I also want to talk more about spirituality which I know will make some people instantly click off this tab & run away but like I said, I want this to be an authentic and safe space to discuss a range of topics. Whilst I am not religious I do believe in the power of the universe and right now, I have this little flame inside me that wants to explore spirituality a little more. This really came about after watching Cartia Mallan’s video: My Journey with Spirituality & Astrology. It’s definitely a very personal journey but I want to share little snippets to help others who are on this similar train & are totally overwhelmed and maybe even a little embarrassed about the whole thing. I certainly know people in my life who I don’t feel comfortable talking to about this kind of thing so I’m sure others do too.

At this point in the recording the wind picked up & the threat of rain was heavy so I took it as my cue.

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Thank you for all your support whilst I have been away & I look forward to writing again soon

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